7 Things I Learned in My First MiLB Year
June marks the one year anniversary of when my boyfriend was drafted by the Miami Marlins. It feels like it happened yesterday because I can remember every little detail about the day, from the moment we heard his name called over the radio to everything that happened next.
I went from being a huge Yankees fan to a huge baseball fan in general (still love my Yanks though!). From driving 35 minutes to go visit my boyfriend at UConn, to booking flights to Florida in order to see him and his games.
My life has drastically changed in the last 365 days, but I am so beyond thankful for God’s plan for our lives. Here are seven things I’ve learned in my “rookie” year of being a MiLB girlfriend:
1. Goodbyes are never easy...
...and they never get any easier. In the past 365 days I have had to say goodbye six different times. I’ve cried five out of those six times. The 6th time I almost missed my flight home so I was too panicked to cry, but I’m pretty sure once I got home the tears came. They aren’t easy, but they are 100% worth it, especially since I get to see my boyfriend do what he loves most.
2. Distance is hard, but it’s really not that hard.
I’m a true believer that life is what you make it. I think this comes with the territory of being a teacher. A lot of the time my students come in to school complaining about having to be there. I tell them every day that they can choose to have a positive outlook on school or whatever the situation is.
It’s the same thing with a long distance relationship. Don’t make it hard on yourself and your significant other by constantly worrying if it will work. If you love each other, MAKE IT WORK. Yes, I obviously want to travel with my boyfriend eventually, but at this moment we are both right where we need to be, and in God’s timing when it’s time to travel together we will!
I’ve learned to look forward to the little things, like Facetime dates, movie nights (it’s a real thing and my favorite night of the week!), and trips to see him. The distance makes me cherish every little thing about our relationship and I’m so thankful for it.
3. Community is key.
I can remember feeling so alone for the first month of his minor league career. I didn’t know anyone. We were leaving our college teammates/girlfriends behind. Everything was so new to us and I felt like I had no one to turn to because none of our friends knew what we were experiencing.
Then I remember finding the WAGS in Real Life on Instagram. I was like, oh my gosh! There are others just like me, or others who know way more than me who can help me feel a little more normal!
This community has helped me grow in my faith, meet new wives and girlfriends from across the country, and break out of my shell. I am so thankful to have met the girls I have, and am excited to see the future of WAGS in Real Life. Thanks Alysa!!!
4. Don’t be afraid to step out of your comfort zone.
This one is huge for not only me, but also my boyfriend. We are sooo reserved. We’re the quiet ones who can get loud and open up, but only around our closest friends. So unless I wanted to sit alone at every game and be super antisocial, that had to really change.
I’ve experienced so much in the past year, from flying alone all the time, to sitting at games talking to strangers, to reaching out to fellow WAGS or teammates and expanding my horizon. It’s also helped me to be a better teacher because I’m way more confident now that I have learned to say goodbye to my comfort zone!
5. Don’t worry about what others think.
There are so many people who immediately jump to conclusions when I tell them my boyfriend plays baseball and we’re in a long distance relationship. I recently accepted a new teaching job in Connecticut, and when my current coworker found out she said, “What does that mean for your relationship? How are you going to stay together if you’re apart more than half the year?”
People are quick to make assumptions...let them. Galatians 1:10 is my go to verse. I’m not trying to win the approval of anyone but God!
6. God is so real.
I’ve always known this, I’ve been a Christian my whole life, but God has really shown himself to me in ways I’ve never seen before. It’s so crazy to think that he knows where you and your significant other will be in 5 days, 5 months, 5 years!
Lean on him. Thank him for all the good you have in life, even on the days when you feel like everything is going wrong. I’m so thankful for new friends, new experiences, and new journeys. I’m thankful that I serve a God who would leave the 99 to come rescue me.
7. Live in the now.
When I was in middle school, I wished I was in high school. In high school, I wished I was in college. In college, I wished I was employed and making money. After a year in the minors, I’ve learned (and am still learning) not to wish my life away.
Sure, the ultimate goal is to make it to the majors, but my boyfriend and I are trying to live in the now and enjoy everything the minors has to offer. We have learned so much, traveled a lot, and met a variety of people who have shaped us and helped us grow.
While I look forward to the future, I am enjoying every little thing about where we are at this current moment, and enjoying the ride. Like Paul says in Philippians 4:11-13, we are learning to be content in every situation through Jesus!